Anger is an intense emotional reaction, a feeling that is most common experience we share as human beings in response to a variety of situation. To some of us, it is explained to be annoyance, irritation, resentment, indignation, fury, rage, ire, and wrath a feeling of displeasure which we sometimes expressed in hostile behaviours. At other times we hold it in. In either case, anger is usually an unpleasant, emotional feeling that we find difficult to control. It has important social functions and consequences.
Anger influences not only your behaviour as you experience them but also the behaviour of others who perceive them. Of the range of emotions that arise in the interpersonal conflicts you experience, uncontrolled anger is conceivably the most prominent.
Many good relationships, job and friendly working environment were compromised because of anger. Years of marriage are lost to shouting or resentful silence. Many good and committed relationships go unappreciated because of bitterness. Many good opportunities have been undermined with wrong behavioural reflexes because of anger.
King Solomon in the Bible said “Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city and a man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.
Before we go any further, do you know that apart from other things, it is an interaction between the pressure in having your needs met and how you get stressed up in the process, your view of the stressors and your perceived limited ability to cope with them that triggers your anger?